Revolve not Resolve: Put a New Spin on Life in 2021

It’s that time again. Time to take stock in the year. Time to plan for the next one. Resolutions. Just mentioning that word gives me a migraine. If you are like me, your resolution graveyard is full of the bones of good intentions gone bad. We make the list. We post it all over our life. Vision boards posted on the fridge. Inspirational sticky notes arranged on our mirrors. We got this. For about a week. If we are lucky.

 It’s insanity. Doing the same thing. Expecting different results. Enough is enough. This year, I am going to revolve… not resolve. Resolving to me indicates conflict, problems, ending something that isn’t working. Enter the revolution. Grab your sword. Put on your armor. Your revolution begins. Your level of success revolves around your mindset. How do I do this? I am so glad you asked.

  1. What someone thinks of me is none of my business. Everyone has an opinion. If you wouldn’t go to this person for advice, don’t give them the power to get in your head.
  2.  You are stronger than your excuses. The biggest obstacle to success is the notion you don’t have enough time for something. We all have the same amount of time. It is how you choose to spend it. Make the time.
  3. Surround yourself with good people. Those people who are there for you at 2 p.m. or 2 a.m. Those are your people. Rid yourself of the “I’m just so busy” bodies. Again, we all have the same amount of time in a day. Priorities.
  4. Ready. Set. Goal. Set goals. Daily. Weekly. Monthly. Keep them in a journal. Post them wherever will inspire you. Do your best to reach them. These are not resolutions. These are things like “remember to smile today,” or “do something nice for someone.” Little goals. Big rewards. Big goals. Also big rewards. You are in control of your happiness. It revolves like a department store door. It is up to you to see the goodness around you.  
  5. Schedule it. Some people cannot function without their calendars. For others like me, scheduling is merely a necessary evil. We must have some sort of routine. Give yourself a time RANGE to get up and get going for the day. Make sure to schedule time to play. There are many ideas of HOW to play on this list.
  6. Slow down. Rest. Recover. Restore. Put on a soothing app and chill. I recommend Insight Timer. It’s one of my therapist’s favorite and it’s free. Another thing I’ve been doing is pulling up fireplace crackling videos on YouTube. If you have a real fireplace, you can do that, too.
  7. Drink up. Water. Loads of it. My current goal given by a nutritionist is 64 oz. Get a water bottle you really like. Use it. Often.
  8. Feed your soul. Literally. Do the best you can for your budget. There is no shame in asking for help if you need it. These times are hard. I am with you on this. 
  9. Fake it ‘til you make it. A common therapy tool. Imagine you are where you want to be in life. Act like you’ve already made it. You will get there. In due time.
  10. Opposite action. When you feel like you cannot get out of bed, take that shower, get dressed. Do it. I read about a trick to count to five, and then just take that step. It works.
  11. Worry less. Easier said than done, right? Focus on things that are only within your control. In the middle of a pandemic, there is so much that does not fall within those walls. It is okay to be selfish. The world doesn’t revolve around you. However, in times like this, YOUR world must. If you feel yourself getting anxious, ground yourself. Look into the 5-4-3-2-1 technique. You can also simply stand barefoot in the grass or any surface. Feel the texture on your feet. Immerse yourself in that world.
  12. Dance more. Speaking of feet, get them moving! As I share this list, I am reminded of a note on my kitchen wall to kick up my heels for weekly dance parties. Guess who hasn’t been doing those? Make a playlist or pull up your favorite tunes on YouTube. Dance like no one is watching. Even if someone is. Dance alone or not! Your party. Your rules.
  13. Work that core. Dancing is definitely one way to do that. I am actually talking about another. Laugh. Belly laugh. Stop being so damn serious. We all need that right now. Pop on a stupid silly show, play a goofy game like Would You Rather or Apples to Apples, fill in Mad Libs and read the story. There are free online games and apps for all this stuff. Take advantage of it.
  14. Explore the world with wonderment. Remember what it was like seeing that first beautiful butterfly or sparkling speck of snow? Channel your inner child.
  15. Create your spirit animal. This one comes courtesy of my friend/editor EJ and her daughter Cathy. Hers is a possum. They feed real-life ones after supper. One is named Winifred. There is a special place in the afterlife for this kind of kindness.
  16. Connect with a higher power. However that looks to you. We all need someone or something to listen to us. Especially in solitude and silence.
  17. Read. I cannot resist that papery feeling between my fingers. If a screen is more your speed, go for it. Transcend. Transform. Transport. All possibilities among the pages.
  18. Give yourself something to look forward to. However that may look. Make a new recipe. Watch a new movie. Try a new craft. My 10-year-old daughter can knit, crochet, all things crafty. I like needle felting. You literally poke a needle into wool a bunch of times and try to make it look nice. Yes, I often end up bloody. Still a good time.
  19. Love yourself. Sounds easy, right? Oooh no. It is the most difficult thing on this list. I am no therapist or self-help guru, yet I can offer you this. Give yourself as much grace and kindness as you would someone else. You deserve it. You are worth it. You truly are.
  20. Make yourself proud. If it feels icky, it generally is. Pretend like your kids are watching. Or your mom. Or anyone you really love, admire, and respect. You could also just look in the mirror. You are stronger than you think.
  21. Forgive yourself. For mistakes of years past. Days past. Minutes past. For bad choices. If you learn, it is not a failure. Learn. Grow. Revolve. Cheers to 2021. Let’s fly!

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